What I Did In Similar Case...And REGRETTED!
Lighthouse - I just said a sincere prayer for you and this case because I want this to go favorably for YOU because I'm tired of our society becoming one in which everyone's thinking they deserve a "handout" or rather, they think OTHERS should make repairs for some fault that IS NOTHING MORE THAN THEIR OWN!
The day after Thanksgiving of last year, this very same thing happened to me and the lady I dealt with made me lose my cool to where I very uncharacteristically found myself yelling at her about "personal responsibility". Customer blamed me for "too high of psi" in the handbay because "look what your carwash did to my paint!" She had flaking paint from her car being old already (2003) yet she wanted me to pay for the paint peel that happened when she washed w/ the high pressure gun.
Will try and make this long story short for you: Basically, she similarly said that I should have signs up warning the customer that there is high pressure. When she said that, I walked her to my in-bay signage which said plainly, "WARNING, HIGH PRESSURE". The woman, no matter how logical, calm and professional I was able to keep myself, refused to take "no" for an answer and then she played the "tears card" where you could tell she was about to cry saying that she wanted her family to see her beautiful car and now it looked like THIS!...and then she made me lose my temper when she played the "fear card" when she said, "I have a lot of friends and I am going to tell each and every one of them how you treat your customers (mind you, this lady had never been to my carwash before and I honestly hoped she'd never come back after this episode w/ her was finished!) since you do not want to take responsibility for what your carwash has done to my paint!
So can you understand how your blood might begin to boil hearing someone put down your integrity like that and accuse you of things that are 100% the opposite of how you live your life and run your business?!!!
So I shot back at her, "Ma'am...I should not have to pay for any of this damage to your car because if I am at fault, that would mean that I need to make some change, any change to my carwash at all to prevent this from happening again but I AM NOT GOING TO CHANGE A THING because the sign clearly stated we have high pressure rinse and you say that this bay is stronger than all the rest and that is not correct because all the bays have the same psi, it was YOU holding the gun therefore this was done not at all by us so I needn't repair any of this damage at all, but you know what? Because I am a nice person and because I am sorry for what you did to your car, I am going to have this fixed but I recommend you do not use our bays if you feel the pressure is too high because it will remain as is because that's how it works!
The lady then all of sudden got nice 'cause SHE GOT HER FREAKIN' WAY and then she "made nice" saying I only had to touch up the small area that was peeled off but you and I know that when you turn things in to the paint repair places they aren't gonna charge you $10.00 to touch up a paint chip so...
Lesson Learned: Stand up for what you believe is fair, the honest thing to do and do not be intimidated in making your decision. I rewarded this lady for behavior that was HER FAULT therefore I contributed to the decline of society as a whole. - Carl